Valentine’s Day is a day most couples look forward to, a day to show your significant other how much they mean to you. A year ago, around this date, a new erotic movie premiered in fashion. (50 Shades of Grey) It’s all over the Internet again, with the sequel coming out. In case you don’t know what it is all about:
“For those of you who don’t know the premise of the novel trilogy/movie, it centers around a young billionaire mogul named Christian Grey, a shy and inexperienced college student named Anastasia Steele, and their whirlwind affair, which is an indirect result of his traumatic past. Over the course of the story, the two embark on a dark sexual relationship hinged on a paper agreement Christian asks her to sign, saying that their relationship will remain a non-romantic one, with Christian having the right to do whatever he pleases to her while they’re together, contractually making her his “submissive.” (Sarah Fine, Project Inspired)
My heart is so heavy, as I realize the impact this will have on us girls. We are taught that our worth comes from our looks and how great our bodies are. That if we aren’t a certain way, no guy will ever love us, and we will grapple and put up with anyone who shows us “love”. But girls…
I want you to know that you are worth more than just what you can give a guy.
– You’re more than your mistakes
– You’re more than your hormonal days.
– You’re more than your failures.
– You’re more than your acne and bad hair days.
– You’re more than your imperfections. And I have to admit, the list of these is long as we find more and more things “wrong” with us, and just how many ways we don’t fit in to that “perfect” mold.
We love you, and God loves you for YOU. And one day, the right guy will come along who loves you for YOU. Not what he can get or what you can give. Don’t fall for Satan’s lie that you’ll never be loved, so you need to grab at whoever glances in your direction. I know I sound so cliché. The “everything will work out” little speech. But trust me. I know from experience… It isn’t worth it. It isn’t worth it to accept unacceptable behavior because he “loves” you. It isn’t worth it to base all your self worth on how pretty or ugly you may think you are, or what others think of you. It isn’t worth it to give precious pieces of yourself away to someone who just cares that he’s getting them, and not that it’s you who is giving them, or that they’re precious. Don’t give yourselves away prematurely. Don’t go along with this society who believes that pain = love. Or love is all about what you can get. Because that’s the exact opposite of true love.
You are SO VALUABLE. Jesus, Jesus who died a very painful death and suffered excruciating agony, He died for you. Because He loves you. He sees your mistakes. He sees those hormonal days. He sees your failures. He sees your acne and misbehaving hair. He sees your imperfections. And He loves you. Because He sees your value. He sees your worth. He sees your beauty. He sees someone who will never be replicated or replaced. There is no guy on this earth who will satisfy your longing for Jesus. I’ve tried and tried to fill that hole with anything I could think of. There was still an emptiness, an ache, a longing. Why? Because no one can take the place of Jesus. They cannot complete us like He can.
Please, don’t fall for the lies of society. That anything goes, as long as he loves you. That you have to sacrifice yourself to please someone who won’t take a second to think about your vulnerability and fragility. That all your worth is how many likes you get on Instagram and Facebook. You’re precious. You’re loved. You’re worth the wait, and he will be too. I promise.